Birth mother support after adoption in Utah doesn’t end at placement. Heart to Heart Adoptions offers ongoing counseling, after-placement support, and connection to other birth mothers who understand what you’re going through. You matter to us long after placement day. You are not forgotten, and you are not alone.
Placing your baby for adoption isn't the end of your journey. At Heart to Heart, we understand that birth mothers need ongoing support long after placement day.
"The hardest part wasn't making the decision or even the placement day. It was three months later when everyone expected me to be 'over it.' I talked with Wendy a lot and some other birth mothers. Heart to Heart helped me understand that grief is normal and healing takes time."— Sage from Highland, Utah
You will still have your case manager. You will be offered follow-up counseling sessions. If you want connection with other birth mothers who have been through placement, we can help with that too. Post-adoption counseling covers:
"My case manager, Kathy, helped me understand that crying on my daughter's birthday was normal, not a sign that I made the wrong choice. Three years later, I still call her when I need support."— Mckenna, Herriman
Grief and sadness are often part of adoption even when the decision is the right decision. The fact you chose adoption means you are doing a loving and selfless thing. But sometimes selflessness can be hard. It won't always be this hard. Many birth mothers describe a deep peace alongside their grief. We will help you carry both. Healing happens over months and years, not days.
Of course, but you don't have to. You get to plan how the post-placement will look like. In an open adoption, you and the adoptive family agree to stay in contact. This can occur through letters, photos, calls, or visits. You get to decide. You get to decide the level of openness. This openness and how much contact can change over time. But however the contact is, you will be able to see your child grow up.
"My baby's other parents and I kind of have a system. Every Sunday they send me pictures from the week. I love them so much."— S. Tremonton
Yes. Heart to Heart Adoption connects birth mothers with other birth mothers. All of you will understand what each of you are going through. Sometimes the best support comes from someone who has walked the same road. We can also connect you with crisis support if you are going through a particularly hard time after placement. Our team is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
As long as you need. Maybe you don't feel like support today but in six months, you really want someone to talk to or someone to have lunch with that understands what happened. There is no time limit on the support we offer. Some birth mothers check in with their case manager for months. Some stay connected for years. Your decision does not have an end date, and neither does our care for you.
Ongoing counseling is free and available long after placement day. You can reach out anytime. Click here.
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Yes. Post-placement counseling is free and ongoing. You can call or text your case manager any time after placement. We also offer follow-up counseling sessions, connection to support groups, and peer support from other birth mothers who have been through placement.
Yes, grief is a completely normal part of the adoption experience. Many birth mothers feel a mix of peace, sadness, love, and loss. These feelings often show up all at once. Heart to Heart will help you through these stages as long as you need it. As I write these answers, Jodi called me into her office where she was speaking with a woman who place a baby nearly two years ago. The birth mother wanted me to see the pictures she recently got from the adoptive family. Jodi is helping her navigate between the joy of seeing her child, a sense of loss, and a feeling of peace.
Yes, if you chose an open or semi-open adoption. The contract agreement you decided upon before placement should outline the kind of communications you want.
That is very common. The hardest emotions often surface weeks or months after placement, once the immediate support fades. Heart to Heart stays with you. You can reach out at any point after placement. As I said in the question about is grief normal. We often have women contact us because they want to talk about the emotions that involve peace and sadness at the same time.
Yes. Heart to Heart can connect you with birth mother peer support groups. Mostly these are informal groups who have gone through the same thing as you and are willing to talk about it or just go to a movie together. Peer support is one of the most powerful tools for healing. Ask your case manager about current group options.
We're here to walk beside you—every step of the way.