Should I choose adoption?
There are many reasons why you might find yourself in this position, but the question now is, what am I going to do, and how am I going to make the best decision for me and my baby?
Common Reasons Why You May Choose Adoption
- You want a family that is stable and able to provide the child with resources and opportunities.
- You want a two parent family.
- You are not financially able to parent and financial assistance isn’t enough.
- You feel that you are not emotionally equipped to parent this child.
- You don’t have a relationship with the father of the baby, and not enough support from family/friends to parent on your own.
- You want to choose the adoptive family and participate in the child’s future.
- You want to complete your education and pursue other life’s goals.
Many birthparents choose to place their baby for adoption after carefully considering the best interests of that child. Start by asking yourself the question,
Am I Ready to parent this child?
- Am I able to give this child what they will need to thrive in this world?
- Who can I count on for support? Who will be there for me? Will I be alone?
- Can I afford to support this child? Can I pay for basic needs, housing, clothes, food, or diapers?
- Do I have a job or the income to financially support my baby?
- Can I keep the baby safe and healthy? Provide stability?
- What do I want to achieve in my life? What are my life’s goals?
- How will the baby affect my future plans?
- Am I willing to make sacrifices and make adjustments to raise my child?
- Am I emotionally stable?
- Can I put the needs of the baby first?
- Is my life already out of control? Am I able to adequately parent the children currently in my home?
- Will I be bringing a baby into a healthy, living situation?
If you have answered “no” to some of the above questions, you may want to consider adoption.